“Grief is about doing. It’s not just feeling dreadful in a dark room. If you do stuff, you express stuff and it’s active, that’s when you move forward in grief; and no one can tell you what you need to do because it is about love and it’s about your unique relationship with that person who’s died and only you can possibly find the right symbols or metaphors or things that express that. No-one can lecture you, you can’t read a book that tells you. It comes from within that stuff”. Rachel Clay, bereaved sibling in SAY THEIR NAME the promotional film we made for The Compassionate Friends.
What we now want to do is to help you to find that stuff that comes from within; to do the things that will help you to find new meaning in your life. We want to help you discover new ways of remembering your child and your lives together. This work is based on ideas that flow from the concept of ‘continuing the bond’ with your child – of not wanting to cut off from them but of building a new kind of relationship with them.
We don’t pretend that this is easy, but our courses are designed to guide you gently as you struggle to find the symbols and metaphors that will give meaning to your life without your child. And we want to show you some new practical and creative skills that will help you as you begin to integrate your loss into your life.
WHAT’S ON OFFER …
We are offering three different workshops for you to take part in. None of these are compulsory and none require any previous experience. But we do hope you enjoy them and pick up some useful tips as you find new ways of expressing your grief.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING …
- “Unique in the approach to grief …. I want to come again and would recommend it in a heartbeat.”
- “It could have gone two ways – wishy washy or deep – and it went beautifully, delicately deep.”
- “What you have created for us has been beyond expectations … I don’t want to go back into the ‘real’ world.”
- “Completely blown away – I feel safe, normal, comforted, warm and ‘fun’. Very therapeutic – thanks from the bottom of my heart.“
CONTINUING THE BOND ….
Grief is often seen as a temporary phase following the death of a loved one and that after a while life will return to normal, that after a while we will find a way to move on from the death of a loved one, to find closure in order to get on with the rest of our lives. This doesn’t ring true for us. In fact rather than closures we think that grief can offer up a number of openings. But this does mean that we rethink how we can now relate to the world, to our friends and family, but especially how we now relate to our child who while here in spirit is no longer physically present. Renewing and maintaining these relationships is a necessarily an active and creative process.
GRANTS AND BURSARIES AVAILABLE …
We have received a small grant from the National Lottery that enables us to offer a discount to those with limited finances. If this applies to you make sure you fill in the relevant part of the form.
DO YOU WORK IN THE BUILDING TRADE or in associated DIY industries and on a low salary? You and a partner may be eligible for a FULL GRANT from the THE RAINY DAY TRUST to attend the retreat. We are proud to partner with this wonderful charity that exists solely to help people who have worked in the UK’s home improvement trade including housewares (eg pottery and glass, cookware and bakeware) DIY, builders merchants and garden centres and nurseries staff. This is a fantastic offer of support. To find out more click below.